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Always Honest

What is Maturity: a Series of Mini Blogs 6/16

Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. (Ephesians 4:25)

Not gonna lie, breaking the habit of little bitty lies (and some big ones) has been a major undertaking in my life. When I started noticing this quirky and destructive habit I was like, "WHY? WHAT AM I DOING?!"

I was almost always lying to make myself look good. Like when bosses and supervisors asked me if I'd done something and suddenly felt the panic of not having done it a quick lie about why it wasn't done. Being asked in a social situation if I know some one who obviously I SHOULD know? A vague half truth that leads one to believe that I DO know them.

TERRIBLE habit. Why? Because every tiny little lie pulls on the fabric of your integrity. "But it's just a tiny lie." But WHY lie? What's the motivation? The motivation is always a deeper issue that needs healing. Huge lies are more obvious and can create dangerous consequences. To me the little lies are just as dangerous because when they masquerade as acceptable we slowly dupe ourselves into believing that it's ok to shirk honesty.

Your integrity, your values, and people's ability to trust and believe you are all wrapped up in your honesty. Here are a few areas of life in which honesty is extremely important:

  • relationships: with others, loved ones, family
  • business: partners, people you deal with, people you make deals with, co-workers, employees, and supervisors
  • self: yeah, self
  • all other situations and communications

The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity. (Proverbs 11:3)

Truth builds your future. It lays foundation. It sets you up for success. Telling the truth even when it's hard will always result in blessing in the long run.

As I thought about all of this my "devil's advocate" side was like, "What's the worst that could happen in lying? Is it a big deal all the time?" As I thought it out I came back to the fact that lies always show themselves in one way or another. And then I had a bigger thought...if the people around me don't think I'm honest then how can they believe that I love them?

Definitely made me wanna let go of the lies.

A dishonest man spreads strife, and a whisperer separates close friends. (Proverbs 16:28)

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